Marriage and Divorce
If we are to speak about marriage and divorce, then it must be realized that the subject can be approached from two different directions that is to say, from the perspective of the carnal mind or from the perspective of the spiritual mind.
Marriage is defined as a joining, a pairing or a bonding of two so that they become as one.
There are three types of marriage, and these are; A. Carnal. B. Spiritual and C. A mixture of both.
Carnal marriage is based on selfishness, self-gratification through physical pleasure and material needs. Such a marriage is one of convenience. For example: she does the dishes, cleans the house and looks after the children , while he goes out and earns money to support the family, and they put on an act to their friends and the community that they are a loving family, while in fact there is no spiritual bonding. This kind of marriage is no more than a materialistic contract that is held together by a marriage certificate written on paper, and enforced by civil law.
Spiritual marriage is true marriage; it needs no certificate written on paper to validate it, because it is written in the heart. It is a marriage made of Love for one another regardless of all other circumstances. Such a marriage cannot be broken as easily as a carnal marriage.
A marriage that is a mixture of both carnal and spiritual is dependent on both of these requirements being met, and if one of these is not met then the marriage fails.
Both carnal and mixed carnal/spiritual marriages are no more than temporary marriages that are easily broken, and those involved were never really soul mates, at the most they could only have been friends.
There are so many people in the world today suffering because they are in a marriage that is not returning what they are giving, instead of being freed by their partners Love they find themselves enslaved by their own. Instead of being comforted they are beaten. Instead of being praised they are criticized. Instead of being trusted they are falsely accused. Instead of loyalty they find betrayal. Instead of equality they are oppressed, because their Love has been seen as a weakness to be taken advantage of and a power to revel in. Instead of sex being a way of expressing Love it has become a duty. Instead of gifts and gestures to show Love there are only orders. And the innocent loving partner turns inward for reasons, only to blame themselves for the failed marriage.
Why can’t people see that no-one is their property? Why do they fail to see the real person inside their partner? Why do they close their eyes and forget what they once saw? Why do loving souls keep walking the same path to nowhere?
Love cannot be forced from anyone, it is either given freely or not at all, yet a person desperate for Love can be deceived into thinking they are loved, at least until the deceiver has taken what they want. You must learn to Love yourself. To respect the Love you carry. You must consider what the other person sees in you, what it is that attracts them, you must ask yourself ‘what is it that they want from me?’ If it is your happiness then you have found Love, if it is not then how can they say that they Love you?
When people stop talking they have already started walking.
When Love is gone, it’s time to move on.
It takes two to make a marriage work, and a true marriage will stand even in the most difficult and testing of times, and those whose marriage can endure such times are true soul mates, their Love for each other is unconditional and forever. It is the same for true friends.
Having said that, even soul mates can find their relationship on the verge of destruction, maybe through the pressures of life or a moment of indiscretion where one falls for temptation, in which case to save the relationship one must forgive, or forget and move on. If it is unconditional Love that you want then settle for nothing less, but remember your Love has to be unconditional too. If you Love someone let them go, if they Love you they will return. If they don’t return you have lost nothing, and somewhere out there your true soul mate is still waiting for you.
So what does the Bible say about marriage and divorce? Well to the carnal mind it speaks one message, but to the spiritual mind it speaks another, in fact it is the same with all scripture.
I have been asked by a loving soul to interpret Matthew 19:3-12 and so here goes as I speak through Love, the Spirit and Christ.
Matthew 19:3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. 10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. 11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. 12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
If you have read Matthew 19:3-12 and have taken it literally, or have been taught its literal meaning, then prepare yourself for an OMG moment.
Here we have a confrontation between two types of mind, i.e. the carnal mind and the spiritual mind. The carnal mind belongs to those who cannot comprehend the spirit, and therefore they have no perception or understanding of anything beyond the physical/material. It is because of this that they believe they are physical beings instead of spiritual beings, and that Heaven is a place in the sky above the world. It is on these beliefs that they also interpret the scriptures, and because of this Jesus referred to the Pharisees as blind guides. On the other hand, Jesus was endowed with incredible spiritual sight and understanding, because of this he was able to lift the veil on the scriptures and interpret them as God intended.
It is quite clear in Genesis 2 that God made man and women and joined them as one (married them) while they were still in the Garden of Eden, and before they were sent into the world. It is also written; ‘what therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.’
The key to understanding this spiritually is that man is a reference to a spiritual being, and Eve is a reference to the spiritual beings mind, companion/wife.
If God performed a marriage between physical beings in the Garden of Eden (before they came into the world), then why do people come into the world as babies without a husband or wife? Why is it that they have to come of age and then seek out and choose a wife or husband? Why is it that marriages need to be performed in the world (by other people) to make them legal?
The scriptures do not lie, but neither do they reveal their secrets to the carnal mind.
Matthew 19:3 It should be obvious by now that the Pharisees were speaking of laws pertaining to the behaviour of physical beings, whereas Jesus was speaking of higher laws pertaining to the behaviour of spiritual beings. In other words, the Pharisees were speaking of man’s laws, and Jesus was speaking of God’s laws.
The marriage performed by God in the Garden of Eden, was a marriage between Self and mind, without which awareness would not be able to function, and consciousness could not be experienced.
In the beginning all of God’s children share a part of His mind, but then they are given their own mind. Therefore, that newly given mind (known as Eve) is the first and lawful wife.
The adultery which Jesus spoke of is that which relates to the Self, fornicating with the carnal mind, in other words, falling to the temptations of the world and away from Love. It is because of this that the true Self and wife, and spirit, falls into forgetfulness.
I am sent to remind you of the things that you have forgotten.
In Matthew 19:8 ‘Hardness of the heart’ means selfish and unloving. It is not spiritually lawful or loving that a man and woman who are bound by vows made in this world, should be compelled by those laws to live together when the Love for each other is gone. How many in the world even at this moment, are trapped in failed marriages because of the fear of breaking the vows that they made to each other? I tell you in Truth that if the Love is gone the vows are broken already, and to continue is an offence to Love and Truth, unless one stays for an unselfish or loving reason such as for the sake of the children. Such is the sacrifice of a loving soul.
Matthew 19:9 should be understood spiritually as:
Whoever puts away the wife/mind that God gave him (a spiritual mind) except for the reason that that mind has lead the Self away from Love and Truth, and shall join himself to another mind that God has not given, will have committed adultery. If the false Self joins with the wife/mind that has been put away, he also commits adultery.
The false Self is the one who has forgotten its true spiritual nature and comes to believe it is a physical being, and has in fact created an alter ego, another personality that is carnal. Such a false carnal Self is referred to as Satan; the Devil is of course the evil heart.
It is so easy in this world to divide the mind and push the mind that God gave, to one side, and then replace where it was with a carnal mind. It is because people find themselves in a divided mind that they sin and the repent, as they move from one mind to the other, but while they are like this, they can be saved, because they can still distinguish between good and evil.
Matthew 19:11. Only the spiritual sighted can understand and accept what is being said.
Matthew 19:12. Eunuchs are those who are unable to commit adultery. There are both physical eunuchs and spiritual eunuchs, so as usual there are two ways of interpreting this scripture. If taken literally it is easily understood as relating to physical men who can’t perform the sexual act, because they do not have the physical equipment necessary. However, if we interpret the scripture spiritually we get quite a different picture. Let’s see what is says to the spiritually sighted.
For there are some spiritual beings that are unable to commit adultery with a mind not given by God, and they were born this way from their Mother’s womb, Heaven, in other words, they were born loving souls.
And there are some spiritual beings that are unable to commit adultery with a mind not given by God, who were taught to be that way while in the world.
And there are some spiritual beings that have made themselves unable to commit adultery with a mind not given by God. This they do for the Kingdom of Heaven’s sake, in other words, for the sake of Love, Truth, peace and harmony within.
So there are those who are born loving, those who are taught to Love in the world and there are those who need no worldly teachers, but have learned for themselves that Love is the only way to bring peace to the Kingdom within.
There is another very important teaching that is to do with spiritual marriage, and that is the mystery of the bride of Christ, and I will be presenting that in the near future. I think many of you will be astonished and amazed at what I reveal and what has been hidden from the eyes of the blind guides.
Once more thing, it is not my intention to cause marriage breakups, in fact I say, if there is any chance that a Love can be rekindled, then try. Things are not always as bad or as lost as they seem, all it takes in an honest and open heart, forgiveness, understanding, and the words ‘I Love you’. Both must put their pride to one side and humble themselves, for this is the way of Love. If after that nothing changes, then let go and run, for this also is the loving thing to do, for both of you.